The concept of freedom does not exist within unity consciousness, it is only a reaction within duality consciousness to control being placed upon an individual, being, or entity; without perceived control, there is no need to be free from that control. The freedom wound is the fear of being controlled, and while the security wound can be perceived as the fear of the freedom wound individuals doing actions that are considered unfaithful, impulsive, and unaware—actions perceived as a threat or as the source of their pain, it actually goes all the way back to the origins of duality, to the initial drop in consciousness from eternal awareness to mortal awareness.
The unity version of freedom is sovereignty, where an individual is fully responsible for their own beliefs, behaviors, and reality without the need to control, or the risk of being controlled. Spontaneity is the ability of a sovereign individual to act and create from pure inspiration; unimpeded by the fractured being state of fear and control. Spontaneity is a unity consciousness concept, and its dualistic halves are impulsivity and resistance, all actions done within duality are either/or, as the security wound acts impulsively to control the behavior of the freedom wound, and resists their impulsive actions to break free from their control, and the freedom wound resists the impulsive controlling of the security wound, and acts impulsively to experience a false sense of freedom.
Resistance is the reaction of the security wound when confronted with the possibility of pain, and of the freedom wound when confronted with the possibility of being controlled. It is directed at the source of the perceived pain or controlling behavior, even if it is played out passively, or has little effectiveness or punch to it; simply slowing down compliance can be felt as a successful attempt to resist pain or control. In the case of freedom, if a person’s ability to effectively resist the control of others is crushed, their will to be free decimated, they may find a sense of power through controlling the actions of others, even if if is just controlling their children to feel powerful; the logic being, “if I remove the freedom of others, at least we are equal in our misery now”. Equality is a popular theme for those who wish to feel free, where all are equal in their subservience to an ultimately powerful and controlling being or entity, or where all are equal in their ability to rise to the top of the hierarchical pyramid, to gain the ultimate safety that it supposedly brings; neither work though, both are illusory.
It is a social and societal stereotype, and for good reason, that women control the relationship, which is why their men desire to feel free from it with porn, affairs, a longtime mistress, sports, fighting, competition, and other freedom pursuits. Men may get around this by intimidating and physically dominating women, or emotionally manipulating them, to gain an artificial sense of freedom in the relationship, but this is just a poor workaround and an illusion – they’re still not powerful, and the relationship certainly isn’t deep. Conversely, women may also manipulate the situation emotionally and sexually, and grant a counterfeit sense of freedom to the man, this will cause him to work much harder on the relationship, but ultimately, the woman is still controlling, she’s just allowing him to have sex (with her or with others) within her comfort zone, by giving him ‘an allowance’ of sex. A man will be attracted to a woman that he believes he can be free with, and may even cheat on his current partner, to achieve this illusory freedom; out of the frying pan and into the fire.
It is also a social and societal stereotype that men control the finances, which is why women feel so free when they are able to shop, decorate their home, travel, and other forms of spending money to feel temporarily free. Women can get around this through seducing men sexually, and manipulating them in order to gain the freedom they crave, but this too is a poor workaround and an illusion, they’re still not powerful, and their relationship with the man, and to money, certainly isn’t deep. Conversely, men also can manipulate women with their money and financial success, to grant a counterfeit sense of financial freedom to them, but ultimately, the man is still controlling the finances, he’s just allowing her to spend within his comfort zone, by giving her ‘an allowance’ of money.
A power struggle is the struggle for domination within a couple, partnership, nations, or other dualistic opposing forces, where one is fighting for supremacy within the relationship (sex), and the other is fighting for the supremacy of controlling the material (money) and survival needs. Sometimes an imbalance will happen, when one side out manipulates or dominates the other, where the winner ends up with supremacy of both the relationship and the material needs, allowing for a false sense of peace and shallow intimacy, as long as the enslaved side does not resist beyond allowed tolerances.
In summary, the security wound comes from not feeling in control one’s own life, both sexually and materially, causing them to seek to control external others to feel safe. This projection of their fears onto others, along with their actions that attempt to dominate, manipulate, and control, causes a reaction by those that feel controlled; this reaction is called resistance, and is the freedom wound. Equality is an attempt by those enslaved by the security wound to break free from their prison, the freedom to rise through the hierarchy of prisoners, to a higher level of the prison, or to experience fairness within their prison, as misery loves company. The ultimate controllers, those with the most fear, are more than happy to grant a sense of equality to their slaves, as long as they agree to stay within the system and follow the rules, all is well; either way, equality supports the illusion of freedom.
To get out of this back and forth drama between security and freedom, between order and chaos, an individual must eventually let go of their belief that controlling a person or situation has the potential to make them be safer, because it cannot. The freedom wound is not the root fear, but it does perpetuate the fears of the security wound, the freedom wound is a self-fulfilling prophecy that the security wound created, natural proof that those being controlled cannot be trusted with freedom. The freedom wound is ultimately a devastating side effect of the security wound, and the fear that initially created it.
CHANGE YOUR REALITY – EMPOWER YOURSELF
- Maybe just maybe, controlling the situation or person isn’t going to make me feel safer.
- Maybe just maybe, controlling the situation or person grants me an illusion of safety, but it is fleeting, and always just out of reach.
- Maybe just maybe I’m creating people who resist me, who seek freedom from me, because I am seeking to control them.
- Maybe I control others because I am afraid, and feel powerless to soothe my fear.
- Maybe just maybe, controlling others doesn’t actually provide me with personal power.
- Maybe just maybe, controlling others doesn’t actually soothe my fear, but is just a temporary medication, and illusory escape.
- Maybe just maybe, I’ve been the creator of my experience from the beginning, and that my motivations have always been from my perceived powerlessness and root fear, and not from others actions (which are really just reactions to my controlling and fear).
- Maybe just maybe, I can allow myself to fully experience my powerlessness and fear without judgment or projecting it onto others.
- Maybe just maybe, when I fully own my fear, and relax into the worst that can happen to me, I will no longer be afraid, and I will be powerful.
- Maybe just maybe, I can create the life I choose, free of fear for my safety, and free of the fear of losing my freedom.
- Maybe just maybe, I forgot that I am a sovereign being, and I can restore myself back to that reality.