Inside-out vs Outside-in Happiness

One of things that I remember well from my years of dating is the need of many of the women to feel responsible for my happiness, as it reinforced their own desire to feel special, and to feel secure within the relationship. They would say “I’ve never felt this way before, have you?” I knew that they were fishing for emotional validation for our relationship, and wanting for me to reply “no, only you have […]
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Romance drugs us; love awakens us.

Just about anyone can get romantic, but far fewer can truly love and sustain love. Romance asks little more of us than popping a pill, but love — especially love in genuinely intimate relationship — asks for plenty, requiring not just our hearts but also our wakefulness, our integrity and discernment, and our on-tap capacity to both open and protect ourselves. Cutting through our romantic illusions does not, however, mean an end to relational magic; […]
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