Sex is Simply a Reflection

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“What we do sexually with our partner may seem very different from what we do in the rest of our relationship, but it is in fact simply a reflection, however skewed or energetically magnified, of our overall relationship. What is not working in a relationship will show up in a couple’s sex life, no matter how much sex may seem to be a “solution” to or escape from the rest of the relationship. Once we […] Read more »

Do you Receive an Oscar for Awakening?

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>>It is understatement in the extreme to say that spiritual opening is not necessarily a benign, nice, neat, or comfortable process. Initially we may flirt with spiritual opening, doing some meditation practices, reading spiritual or metaphysical literature, trying out different teachers and teachings, perhaps hoping that our spiritual experiences will make us happier or more successful, but when we go, or are compelled to go, beyond spiritual dilettantism and cultism, reaching the point where we […] Read more »

“Spiritual Bypassing” Book Quote

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“Spiritual bypassing, a term first coined by psychologist John Welwood in 1984, is the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs. It is much more common than we might think and, in fact, is so pervasive as to go largely unnoticed, except in its more obvious extremes. Part of the reason for this is that we tend not to have very much tolerance, either […] Read more »

To Transcend Yourself Be Yourself

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“Many equate spiritual awakening and liberation with somehow moving beyond selfhood, but my deepest intuition about this is that the more deeply we ARE our uniquely individuated self, the closer we are to fully awakening to who and what we truly are. In short, to transcend yourself be yourself.” ~Robert Augustus Masters Read more »

Sacred Hymn by Diane Bardwell

Sacred Hymn by Diane Bardwell

Aline and I thought this was very beautiful; it was sung and composed by the wife of Robert Augustus Masters, Diane Bardwell.   For a free mp3 download of Sacred Hymn, please visit http://dianebardwell.net/sacred-hymn-download/ Beautiful video for Sacred Hymn, composed and sung by Diane Bardwell, with lyrics from Robert Augustus Masters. Features stunning artwork from Freydoon Rassouli. Edited by Laura Loescher. http://dianebardwell.net http://www.robertmasters.com http://www.rassouli.com Read more »

Healthy Transcendence Includes Supposed Negative Qualities

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Those who have made a spiritual virtue out of bypassing what they deem to be “negative” fail to realize that healthy transcendence is neither a flight nor a disconnection from “lower” things and qualities, but rather a going beyond them that does not exclude them. Through such radical inclusion, we expand both horizontally and vertically, opening ourselves to include a particular quality while at the same time not identifying or fusing with it. There is […] Read more »

Building Better Boundaries

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Written by Robert Augustus Masters Healthy boundaries protect what needs to be protected. Such boundaries say a “no” that makes possible a deeper, more authentic yes. Of course, we can be overboundaried, overly protective of ourselves, defended to the point of cutting ourselves off from what we need, overbudgeting for defense. And we can also be underboundaried, not standing up for ourselves, letting others in in ways that do not serve us. But beyond these […] Read more »

A Second Innocence…

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“There is a second innocence, a conscious innocence. It is not naive, nor gullible, nor helpless before parental or social tyrannies. It is childlike but not childish. It is open but not defenseless. Its vulnerability is not a liability but a source of strength. It is not a victim. Its scars both ennoble and deepen it, without reducing its capacity for Wonder.” ~Robert Augustus Masters Read more »

Romance drugs us; love awakens us.

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Just about anyone can get romantic, but far fewer can truly love and sustain love. Romance asks little more of us than popping a pill, but love — especially love in genuinely intimate relationship — asks for plenty, requiring not just our hearts but also our wakefulness, our integrity and discernment, and our on-tap capacity to both open and protect ourselves. Cutting through our romantic illusions does not, however, mean an end to relational magic; […] Read more »

Avoiding Being Present Through Presence

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Being a professional EFT practitioner and working with emotions for several years, with literally thousands upon thousands of hours exploring emotional patterns, pain, and suffering, we can definitely attest that it is imperative to meditate with the intent to understand your Self, especially your emotional dark side. Clearing emotional pain with understanding creates a clear mind, body, and spirit, while meditating to clear the mind without attempting to understand your Self, we have found to […] Read more »

Spiritual Bypassing

Spiritual Bypassing

Having an enlightened ego, what Robert Augustus Masters calls “spiritual bypassing“, is the tendency of the ego to hide behind spirituality and enlightened actions and language to protect itself from being seen or eradicated.  In what ways has your ego played the enlightenment game of spiritual bypassing?  Do you avoid your pain to act enlightened and spiritual?  Why do you think you do this? “What spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our […] Read more »

More Healthy Relationships

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Having healthy, fully functioning relationships is not a luxury or something just for the rare few: It needs to become a reality for enough of us to significantly impact the majority. The shift required is from fragmentation to wholeness, from frozen yesterday to fluidly alive now, from numbness to full feeling, from alienation to compassion, from reactivity to responsiveness, from genderized stand-offs to mutually respectful coexistence — making full-spectrum intimacy possible. ~Robert Augustus Masters Read more »