Beyond Boundaries: Why we Unconsciously Create the Need for Them

Beyond Boundaries: Why we Unconsciously Create the Need for Them

In previous videos we discussed what boundaries are and are not, and tapped out misunderstandings in regards to them. However, in this video, we discuss the limiting belief pattern that makes boundaries a necessity to our survival, and then we generically tap on the belief. Deep down, the chaos in the world around us, and especially in those close to us, bothers us–for it reminds us of us. So we find ways to disconnect from, […] Read more »

Tap Out the Limiting Belief that Setting Boundaries is NOT Loving

Tap Out the Limiting Belief that Setting Boundaries is NOT Loving

For some people, setting boundaries can be a guilt ridden affair, as they feel punishing and unloving by setting healthy limits. It is usually the tyrants and dictators of the family that seem to have no problem setting boundaries, so an association is made in the brain between limits and being a callous and unloving jerk. The problem is, tyrants do not set healthy limits, they are controlling and hot tempered, they demonstrate that they […] Read more »

Setting Good Limits

Setting Good Limits

“Setting good limits is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.” ~Love and Logic Institute It is important to realize though, that limits and boundaries never tell a person what to do, nor do they punish people for not doing it our way, setting limits is telling people what we will and will not do, and allowing natural consequences to do the rest.   Again, natural consequences is NOT a punishment! Example:  “I only […] Read more »