Boundaries are the Result of Individuation, and not the Cause

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Boundaries are a great concept for self-preservation in theory, but they are only possible when a person is free from enmeshment.  Any and all boundaries attempted while enmeshed are actually laws and rules meant to keep a person safe within an enmeshed reality; they require fighting dominance with dominance, even if it is in a supposed enlightened and spiritualized form.  A person without boundaries needs to enact laws and create rules in an attempt to […] Read more »

The End of Hope is the Beginning of Responsibility

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Inaction, tolerance, and appeasement do not prevent bad things from happening, because they are built upon the irresponsible pattern of hope; instead, they actually create, allow, and embolden the evil that you are hoping to avoid, to manifest into a dark reality. In order to avoid such catastrophe, a person must set firm and loving boundaries, however, setting limits is not an action but a state of allowing your full energetic being into your body, […] Read more »

Tap Out the Limiting Belief that Setting Boundaries is NOT Loving

Tap Out the Limiting Belief that Setting Boundaries is NOT Loving

For some people, setting boundaries can be a guilt ridden affair, as they feel punishing and unloving by setting healthy limits. It is usually the tyrants and dictators of the family that seem to have no problem setting boundaries, so an association is made in the brain between limits and being a callous and unloving jerk. The problem is, tyrants do not set healthy limits, they are controlling and hot tempered, they demonstrate that they […] Read more »

Setting Good Limits

Setting Good Limits

“Setting good limits is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.” ~Love and Logic Institute It is important to realize though, that limits and boundaries never tell a person what to do, nor do they punish people for not doing it our way, setting limits is telling people what we will and will not do, and allowing natural consequences to do the rest.   Again, natural consequences is NOT a punishment! Example:  “I only […] Read more »