Beyond Boundaries: Why we Unconsciously Create the Need for Them

Beyond Boundaries: Why we Unconsciously Create the Need for Them

In previous videos we discussed what boundaries are and are not, and tapped out misunderstandings in regards to them. However, in this video, we discuss the limiting belief pattern that makes boundaries a necessity to our survival, and then we generically tap on the belief. Deep down, the chaos in the world around us, and especially in those close to us, bothers us–for it reminds us of us. So we find ways to disconnect from, […] Read more »

Energetic Boundaries

You Won't Have to...

Neo: What are you trying to tell me, that I can dodge bullets? Morpheus: No Neo. I’m trying to tell you that when you’re ready, you won’t have to. Nathan & Aline: After you master the shadow work process, and integrate your darkness and light back into the One within, you will individuate from the collective (un)consciousness and transcend the fight, flight, and freeze survival instinct; this will allow you to experience a new type […] Read more »

Boundaries are the Result of Individuation, and not the Cause

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Boundaries are a great concept for self-preservation in theory, but they are only possible when a person is free from enmeshment.  Any and all boundaries attempted while enmeshed are actually laws and rules meant to keep a person safe within an enmeshed reality; they require fighting dominance with dominance, even if it is in a supposed enlightened and spiritualized form.  A person without boundaries needs to enact laws and create rules in an attempt to […] Read more »

The End of Hope is the Beginning of Responsibility

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Inaction, tolerance, and appeasement do not prevent bad things from happening, because they are built upon the irresponsible pattern of hope; instead, they actually create, allow, and embolden the evil that you are hoping to avoid, to manifest into a dark reality. In order to avoid such catastrophe, a person must set firm and loving boundaries, however, setting limits is not an action but a state of allowing your full energetic being into your body, […] Read more »

Building Better Boundaries

Spiritual Bypassing

Written by Robert Augustus Masters Healthy boundaries protect what needs to be protected. Such boundaries say a “no” that makes possible a deeper, more authentic yes. Of course, we can be overboundaried, overly protective of ourselves, defended to the point of cutting ourselves off from what we need, overbudgeting for defense. And we can also be underboundaried, not standing up for ourselves, letting others in in ways that do not serve us. But beyond these […] Read more »

Tap Out the Limiting Belief that Setting Boundaries is NOT Loving

Tap Out the Limiting Belief that Setting Boundaries is NOT Loving

For some people, setting boundaries can be a guilt ridden affair, as they feel punishing and unloving by setting healthy limits. It is usually the tyrants and dictators of the family that seem to have no problem setting boundaries, so an association is made in the brain between limits and being a callous and unloving jerk. The problem is, tyrants do not set healthy limits, they are controlling and hot tempered, they demonstrate that they […] Read more »

Learning How to Have Sex is Easy

Unity Tantra

“Learning how to have sex is easy. Learning a sexual technique is easy. If it is so easy though, why does humanity continue to be sexually unsatisfied? The emotions, boundaries, and beliefs that contribute to sexual experiences, and especially the management of life force energy, continues to be largely ignored; depth of character and self-awareness changes your sexual experience more than a technique ever can.” ~Aline & Nathan Read more »

The Enemy of My Enemy is My Friend?

The Enemy of My Enemy is My Friend?

The phrase “the enemy of my enemy is my friend” is one of the most dangerous ego workarounds that the mind can invent, it is selling your soul to the devil to gain some temporary pain relief — out of the frying pan and into the fire, or so they say. Inviting a hero to save you, no matter how cool their costume, is setting yourself up to for even greater pain and misery, as […] Read more »

Setting Good Limits

Setting Good Limits

“Setting good limits is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.” ~Love and Logic Institute It is important to realize though, that limits and boundaries never tell a person what to do, nor do they punish people for not doing it our way, setting limits is telling people what we will and will not do, and allowing natural consequences to do the rest.   Again, natural consequences is NOT a punishment! Example:  “I only […] Read more »

Debt Based Relationships

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Polyamory is akin to creative financing with 3rd density love (based in approval, disapproval, and rejection) as the currency, it is taking out a loan to pay off an old debt, which gives the illusion of debt relief and extends the loan default to another day. Debt based economics, whatever the currency may be, is still based in overspending that which you do not have, it is playing within limited boundaries with limited resources, where […] Read more »