This is really important to understand, especially in Tantra, as many people use Tantra as a spiritualized excuse to jump into selfish gratification, rather than an opportunity to understand their sexual motivations, to then transform them into something more powerful.
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When we say “embrace your shadow side”, we are not encouraging you to indulge yourself with an orgy of selfish gratification, but rather we are encouraging a compassionate and intimate peek into understanding why you act and believe as you do. Instead of permission to jump head first into dark behavior, it is the freedom to understand the limiting beliefs that causes your dark behavior. In this way, we encourage you, embrace your shadow side. ~Nathan & Aline