Escape from Victim, Villain, Savior, and the Duality Drama

The Duality Drama

We have the survival mechanism of “fight, flight, freeze, and tend & befriend”, because we’ve been conditioned to ask a very narrow set of questions, and seek for their narrow set of answers. This narrow line of questioning keeps us from experiencing the infinite potential available through the power of questions and answers. At the core of our dilemma are limiting questions, such as “how can I feel safe from villains?”, “how can I feel […] Read more »

Freedom & Safety: A Return to the Womb

Fetus and pregnant woman

From our EFT Tapping practice and personal experiences, we have found that there are two primary motivators in life, the Freedom and Safety wounds, where freedom is the freedom from responsibilities, and safety is the feeling of being secure and supported. Before leaving our mother’s womb, we are completely safe/supported, and also completely free of responsibilities, but the separation we feel after leaving this form of “oneness” leaves us with a trauma.  It is from this trauma that our […] Read more »

Moral Relativism: The Foundation for a Hostile Takeover

right wrong

Moral relativism is the belief that sends the message, “that which is true for me may not be true for you”; it is a subjective view of truth, and not an objective view of truth. If moral relativism is how we should live, and there is no right or wrong, then by extension, humans do not have rights either, because there are no wrongs that can be done against them. You cannot believe that we all have […] Read more »

To Survive or Thrive?

Sex & Money

Have you ever wondered why humanity lives in a perpetual state of survival, and why it is so difficult to get ahead and thrive? Why is it that certain people are placed as authorities over us, and that we need their permission to enjoy life? Why do we over consume? Why are we so competitive? If so, you may benefit from reading on… *Article is best viewed in fullscreen mode, click the icon in the […] Read more »

Being Present is the Gift

“Being present is the gift, no action can equal the gift of being present with another person. We’ve gotten it backwards in our society, and it’s time that we change that; actions result from being, actions do not secure being. I’ll be here now with you, and you can be here now with me, and that is how we’ll be together.” ~Nathan & Aline Humanity uses actions to make money, which we then use to […] Read more »

Setting Good Limits

Setting Good Limits

“Setting good limits is one of the best ways to take care of yourself.” ~Love and Logic Institute It is important to realize though, that limits and boundaries never tell a person what to do, nor do they punish people for not doing it our way, setting limits is telling people what we will and will not do, and allowing natural consequences to do the rest.   Again, natural consequences is NOT a punishment! Example:  “I only […] Read more »

The Illusion of Freedom

Infinite doors on a shelve. Vector design.

The concept of freedom does not exist within unity consciousness, it is only a reaction within duality consciousness to control being placed upon an individual, being, or entity; without perceived control, there is no need to be free from that control.  The freedom wound is the fear of being controlled, and while the security wound can be perceived as the fear of the freedom wound individuals doing actions that are considered unfaithful, impulsive, and unaware—actions […] Read more »

How to Neutralize Conflict


The best way we’ve found to deal with any supposed atrocity, supposed because there is always a duality of good vs evil, us vs them, freedom vs security, chaos vs order, and yin vs yang in all conflicts, is to realize how you are the yang (order/good) and honor it, and realize how you are the yin (chaos/evil), and honor it too. I am the evil I perceive, and I am the good that I […] Read more »

Balancing the Freedom and Security Wounds

Balanced scale with a man and woman

In earlier posts, we mentioned that we work almost exclusively with the two duality wounds, “freedom” and “security”, and how the freedom wound relates to “chaos”, and that the security wound represents “order” from the yin/yang symbol.  We’re going to develop that a bit now. There are two areas in which people will act out their particular wound within them, greed/sacrifice and lust/jealousy; which are the split up halves of abundance and satisfaction accordingly.  Stereotypically, women tend […] Read more »

Resistance is Futile

When it comes to avoiding the reality of what is, as the Borg from Star Trek would say, “resistance” really “is futile”. Resisting a pattern and reality is just the other side of the same coin of impulsively acting upon a pattern, they are two halves of the same whole; a sliding dualistic scale of good vs evil, us vs them, security vs freedom, moral vs immoral, and victim vs villain. You can’t just positive […] Read more »